It's working for Stephanie J
"[I wish I had known] that spending so many years in school to help others would eventually hurt my family (I cannot stay at home with my baby for a year without defaulting on my student loans)."
Plan/budget for one parent to stay at home for at least a year to minimize pressure to make critical decisions for your family during such a special (and exhausting) time of your lives.
My employer at the time of conception made it clear that I would have no paid maternity leave (aside from accrued vacation/sick leave) and that leave would only be granted in accordance with FMLA guidelines, so my husband and I decided that it was a good time for me to pursue my dreams and return to school to specialize, because school would start approximately 6 months after my due date, and specializing would give me more part-time options.
I chose breastfeeding due to scientific evidence and physical ability. I would have been very disappointed if I could not breastfeed, and refused to give it up for work.
12 weeks was provided, but since I quit my job, I had 6 months. I dreaded leaving my son and putting him in daycare to the point of mild depression (crying daily).
In short, and in order of relevance
1) I did not get support for breast-feeding/pumping at work (baby would not eat adequately when separated from me and I was discouraged from pumping)
2) 6 months was too soon for mama and baby (sleep deprivation)
3) Employer/director was inconsiderate of personal lives (schedule changed on short notice, breaks were not given)
4) My husband was deployed
After four weeks I left the program and am working (prn) on weekends until I can find a job that is flexible.
That spending so many years in school to help others would eventually hurt my family (I cannot stay at home with my baby for a year without defaulting on my student loans).