It's working for Jessica Shortall
"Whenever I traveled, people would ask me, 'Well, who's with your baby?!' It's amazing that it still doesn't occur to people that a father is perfectly capable of caring for his kids."
Build better boundaries at work, and find a way to take longer maternity leave.
My first baby was a surprise…and I was less than three months into a new job at the then-startup TOMS Shoes. I was also the first woman to get pregnant on the job, so I was in a total panic about how they would take the news. I took a deep breath and broke the news to my boss and the company founder at about 10 weeks, and they were wonderful about it.
I took 12 weeks with my first and 14 weeks with my second. With my first I really threw myself back in full-throttle: international travel, long hours, lots of pumping breastmilk, the works. With my second, I had some perspective and negotiated to go down to four days a week so I could have more time with my kids.
My husband. Whenever I traveled, people would ask me, “Well, who’s with your baby?!” It’s amazing that it still doesn’t occur to people that a father is perfectly capable of caring for his kids.
My indulgence? Oh my God, grapefruit. Italian grapefruit soda with the first. At 8 months pregnant in the middle of a Texas summer, the grocery store stopped stocking it and I sobbed in the aisle. Straight up, super-sour grapefruit juice with the second. I drank about a quart a day. I could not get enough of it.
I never expected breastfeeding and working would be so hard and feeling connected with my kids be so much easier!