It's working for Ashley M
"Day care is not evil. You're not a horrible person for liking your job. When you live the life you're called to live, everyone will be happier."
Do what is best for your family. Do what you feel called to and not what you feel that you are supposed to do. Day care is not evil. You’re not a horrible person for liking your job. When you live the life you’re called to live, everyone will be happier.
My mom breastfed all of us, so I was honestly expecting to try. My daughter was born tongue-tied, and while that was fixed early, she had a very difficult time latching and feeding. I had a Medela pump which made feeding so much easier and so much less stressful.
With my first child it was 6 weeks. As a teacher, you get to take 6-12 weeks but you have to take it all unpaid. Even still, I was out of a paycheck for 3 months. I did like my time at home, but I missed teaching greatly, so I was excited to return.
My honest concern was what other people would think of me. I went to a very conservative college, and most of my friends who were having babies were staying home. Even friends who had husbands who were full time students were either living off of their parents or were choosing freely to accept government aide. In good faith I did not feel like I could do either of those things while I had a great job, was using my talents and had the support of my husband. My mother-in-law told me that my baby needed to be with someone who loved her, and my heart was broken. I was so afraid that my friends and family would think I was an awful, selfish mother.
I did not have a given mentor, but luckily, one of the teachers in my department had twins the year before I gave birth. She was a wealth of information and support before, during and after my birth.
That every family is different, and what’s good for one family isn’t good for all. Our life is good and we are happy because we’ve lived the life we were supposed to and not because we’ve tried to match everyone’s expectations.