It's working for Melanie Fonder Kaye
Silver Spring, Maryland
"The best advice I received the first time around was from other pumping or previously pumping moms: block your pumping time on your calendar and be fiercely protective of that time."
Find your people and get used to “good enough” for a little while. At work, find the other parents who can let you in on the best tips for your specific workplace. Let whatever can slide for a little while, slide, at work and at home. Do the best you can – that’s what everyone else is doing. Go back to work in the middle of the workweek. Schedule something for just you at the end of that week. Let people who want to help, help. The third time around, I think we were well fed for months!
I never considered not returning to work. I waited as long as I could to tell my employer in each pregnancy (usually around five months) and was always pleasantly surprised by the reaction.
I wish the classes we took pre-baby had spent a lot more time on this. It was by far the biggest challenge with baby one. There was a nice space to pump for my first two pregnancies (save for traveling post second baby, i.e. Amtrak!). The best advice I received the first time around was from other pumping or previously pumping moms: block your pumping time on your calendar and be fiercely protective of that time. Breastfeeding was much easier with baby two and three; though with three not always having a “home base” for work has made it much more complicated to figure out on a day to day basis.
1st – four months
2nd – slightly less than four months
3rd – four and a half months
I was nervous about taking the time the first time around because I just didn’t know at all what to expect – and very happy with the second two.
The first time it was overwhelming. We were on many wait lists – none of which would have infant openings when I was going back to work – and investigating home-based care, nannies, and nanny shares. We ultimately went with a nanny share, which was a fantastic arrangement for us prior to transitioning to a traditional day care setting.
Not sure it has yet!
Time. There is never enough – and with traffic and commutes, pumping and just regular day-to-day work – there is so little on the margins if anything goes wrong.
Other moms! Endless bowls of macaroni and cheese for baby 1 (whoops!) Pregnancy massages whenever I could.
As a working parent, I never expected juggling everything would be so hard.
As a working parent, a bad day is when everyone is sick and you have no back-up on the same day as an important work event and a good day is when everyone gets to where they should go and back home again. Good enough!