It's working for Anonymous
Cedar Falls, Iowa
"I work as a nurse, second shift, two days a week and every other weekend during the day. Our first son has autism so dealing with just him is a challenge."
I knew I would have to work some since my husband is a teacher and we need both of our incomes.
This is my third, so the planning has already been in place for my previous two. I work as a nurse, second shift, two days a week and every other weekend during the day. Our first son has autism so dealing with just him is a challenge.
Finding sitters that could be at our house to assist my husband when I work the evening shift during the week. It takes one person who needs to be one-on-one with my son and another to be with my middle son and baby. One person cannot do it all. So finding good help was very stressful for me.
I decided that we have enough stress with our son and life that I wanted to make things easier. My husband is a big help and formula feeding meant we could both get some sleep and take shifts with the baby.
I’ve been married for 10 years. My husband didn’t take off work, he was a teacher and now a professor for just the last few months now. This summer when we had our baby he was off so that was a big help. I work part time but my income is needed.
I did not have a back to work mentor.
My leave paid up to 6 weeks off but I asked for 12 weeks (which I had for my previous job) this job allowed it but I did not get paid for the last 6 weeks so we had to make cuts. I wanted to stay on leave as much as possible.
I worked with the human resources department at the hospital I work at to plan out my leave.
I have been back about a month and a half. It took a good couple of weeks to get back in the swing of things however in a way I am still adjusting to life with 3 kids, being up at night, less sleep, more activities with my older kids…really just trying to juggle it all. It is hard to do. I’m a little exhausted.
I would let employees have longer leaves. Or at least let them come back half time for the first few months to adjust. Most babies don’t start really, fully start sleeping through the night til about 6 months old. I would be a much more functional human being if I was getting more sleep. People think you have a baby and things are normal again. Not the case. It takes a while for the baby to get into a routine and you to get back to normal/regular sleep.
I get a good night sleep and have a little time for myself…this makes me a better mom.
Well I can’t really think of anything other than the importance of sleeping when the baby sleeps…sleep deprivation is a real thing…much better this time around since I did not kill myself trying to breastfeed.
Exclusively pumping…by the time you pump, feed, and clean bottles, it’s time to feed again…vicious cycle.