It's working for Brett P.
"I could not justify 6 weeks off even if offered, but would have loved 8 weeks of half days. For my situation at work and at home that would be ideal."
Our son had a condition that lead to very high fevers for 7 days each month. The day we realized we could sleep apart and alternate nights caring for him was a life saver. I wish we had started a year earlier.
8 days with our first, 10 with our second. I was lucky to work for flexible people both times and live near home when our first was an infant. There was no formal change, but I would often run home for 30 minutes during the day and come home for an hour to help with bedtime before working late.
There was very little support. Our families live far away and my wife and I pretty much supported each other.
With our first we lived in an area with poor access to decent medical providers. Between my son’s condition and my wife’s postpartum depression, my attention was not focused on work. It was difficult to manage the family while remaining productive.
The trend towards more leave is great, but I would prefer a more flexible option that recognized different situation. I could not justify 6 weeks off even if offered, but would have loved 8 weeks of half days. For my situation at work and at home that would be ideal. The cookie cutter approach is a little limiting. Also, we need to stop talking about paternity leave as “bonding with your baby.” Leave is a medical necessity and should be viewed as such rather than conjuring an image of staring into an infant’s eyes.